Searching for love in South Korea
The only thing separating Greg Singer from true love is 6,000 miles of ocean.
Maintaining a long, long distance relationship sounds difficult, but Singer said he is up for the challenge. After all, settling down with a woman from South Korea has been his goal since he was 26 years old. (Click here for Part 1)
Singer, who is now 42 years old and lives on Southport, said there is no distance too far for love. Last year when he visited his homeland in South Korea, he fell in love with a woman within the first two minutes of meeting her. Now they are engaged.
While one might assume a spontaneous love affair sounds a bit naive, Singer said, “when it comes down to it, I like to believe the best out of any situation.”
That rang true when the lovestruck Singer arranged for his fiancee, Eunkyeong Pak, to visit America last February for a romantic getaway — in the middle of a blizzard.
Singer said he meticulously planned every minute of their Manhattan weekend, right down to the Valentine's Day sunset on top of the Empire State Building. But what Singer didn't account for was driving through two feet of snow to get there.
It was the middle of winter, and it was dark when Singer reached the Massachusetts turnpike, but none of the roads were plowed.
“I saw all these cars broken down on the side of the road covered in snowdrifts. It looked like a war zone; it was completely empty,” Singer said.
His fiancee was booked to land on the only runway still open in the Northeast, while Singer was racing against the blizzard that would wallop New York with over 26 inches of snow.
“If I needed to, I would have gotten out and walked,” Singer said.
She was in a foreign land, and he had just traveled through a snow-covered hell, but Pak and Singer were finally united, following a frantic search through the LaGuardia Airport.
“She told me she landed in Terminal C. She landed in Terminal A,” Singer said.
The next two weeks were harmonious. The budding couple shared wonderful experiences in New York and Maine that culminated with visit to A Silver Lining in Boothbay Harbor, where they picked out engagement rings.
“We already decided that we wanted to be together,” Singer said. “Being over 40, there's always the thought of marriage in the back of your mind.”
But as the months passed, their blissful time spent together melted like the spring snow, and a new line of communication needed to be maintained.
Conversations from 7,000 miles away can still seem trivial, Singer said, as Skype conversations often consist of simple subjects. (10 a.m. in Boothbay Harbor is 11 p.m. in South Korea.)
The inability to covey complex thoughts can be frustrating, Singer said because the subtleties of the English language don't translate well into Korean, especially with humor.
“She misunderstood me once, when I made a joke about living in my parent's RV, and she keeps on bringing it up,” Singer said.
Despite the some awkward instances, Singer said love is a universal force that can break down all language barriers.
But Singer also acknowledged that his idealistic notion of marriage has suddenly become more realistic.
“Money, distance, time, failing health of immediate family members. A lot of the issues we're having are just regular male/female issues,” Singer said.
The wedding originally planned for October has been put on hold, but despite the postponement, Singer said he still plans to return to South Korea.
“The string is still there. I don't foresee that being severed,” he said.
While the busy summer season is simmering down, every second of the day Singer said his mind is occupied.
“I just think of what I want to accomplish for the day, and what matters most to me, and I’ve identified what matters most to me is her.”
Will love prevail? Find out in the next installment of the Singer love saga.
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