This resource page is dedicated to the memory of those in our community whose lives were affected by, or lost, to acts of domestic violence;
For those whose lives are overshadowed by domestic abuse, and ... for the family and friends of loved ones who want to know what they can do.
Domestic violence is a learned behavior. Living in a house where violence is a part of daily life puts children at risk physically, emotionally, and mentally. Abused children often become adult abusers; some exercise the learned behaviors in their teen years with girlfriends and boyfriends.
How does living with domestic violence affect children? The family pets?
Domestic violence comes in many forms: physical, psychological, sexual, technological, financial ... and, yes, it includes stalking.
Abusers utilize whatever means they deem necessary to exert control over their victims.
Today's technology, while not intended for this purpose, makes it frighteningly easy
Domestic violence is about control and power. Abusers can be male or female; adults or teens.
Stopping the cycle of violence and abuse is vitally important to ending it.
This page now includes resources for male victims of domestic violence and/or sexual assault - whether the abuse occurred in childhood or adulthood.
Violence breeds pain, trauma, fear, broken bones ... homicides.
Make this your mantra: There is NO excuse for domestic violence. NOT ONE.
New Hope For Women (NHFW) serves the counties of Lincoln, Knox, Waldo and Sagadahoc, offering support to people affected by domestic violence in all its forms: domestic violence, dating violence and stalking. NHFW also provides educational resources for the public, schools, other domestic violence related agencies, hospitals, and medical offices.
“New Hope For Women believes that the misuse of power to demean or control others fosters oppression and violence. This manifests itself as racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, religious bigotry, domestic abuse and other forms of violence. New Hope for Women believes that a just and peaceful society must commit itself to confronting and overcoming all forms of oppression and violence.”
NHFW's batterer’s intervention program, Time For Change, is a 48-week educational program for men who abuse their partners. It should be noted (according to NHFW) that most of the men participating in this program have been ordered to do so by the legal system. For more information on this program, call 207-594-0270.
NHFW's most well-known visual awareness initiatives, An Empty Place At the Table, has been set in churches, libraries, museums, and other quiet locations since 2002. The initiative first appeared in Pennsylvania. A dinner table six empty chairs bears the place settings of five victims of domestic violence homicide, donated by families.
The place settings usually include photographs of the victims and sometimes other belongings. The sixth setting remains empty to honor unknown and/or unnamed victims. "An Empty Place at the Table" is displayed during the month of October, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month" at various locations throughout the counties on a rotating weekly basis.
Visit NHFW's website to arrange for the display at a location in your town, or, to add a setting. http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/empty-place-at-the-table
NHFW has a 24-hour hotline - 1-800-522-3304 - operated by trained professionals ready to listen and to help all callers.
New Hope For Women’s main office is located at 5 Beech Street in Rockland. 207-594-2128. Open Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Bath: 12 Court Street. 207-443-8898. Hours: Monday 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. and by appointment
Belfast: 6 Public Safety Way. 207-338-6569. Hours: Monday & Thursday 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. and by appointment
Waldoboro: 251 Jefferson St., Suite 207; 542-0556. Meetings by appointment only.
Patrisha McLean, founder/president of Finding Our Voices, is a photojournalist and human rights advocate who in July 2021 was named by WOMEN'S e-News as one of 21 Leaders for the 21st Century. In 2016, Patrisha's secret of 29 years was outed in the most public way possible with worldwide headlines over the domestic violence arrest of her celebrity husband. Dozens of women in her small community in Maine told her they too had been terrorized by an intimate partner: They hadn't known about her and she hadn't known about them and they all had felt alone. Patrisha's eyes being opened to how domestic abuse is everywhere-- but no one knows because no one talks abut it --sparked Finding Our Voices.
This sisterhood of survivors stand proud and speak loud to educate everyone about the pervasiveness, insidiousness and complexity of domestic abuse (including that emotional abuse can be at least as damaging as physical abuse). FOV also empowers girls and women to recognize, avoid, safely leave and heal from dangerous relationships, and promote systemic change toward justice for victims, accountability for perpetrators and safety for all.
“What Finding Our Voices is doing is hugely important. For many of these victims, they feel completely alone. It makes a huge difference for them to know there are women who have been where they are, and that there is a way out.” Sheriff Jeffrey Trafton, Waldo County, Maine
Healthy Kids, located at 15 Belvedere Road in Damariscotta, asks: “Are you the parent you want to be?”
And then answers that question through action with compassion offering activities - for parents and children, a parenting blog, Parent Talk TV series, home visits, parenting classes, nurturing and parenting workshops for each developmental level, offers alternatives to spanking as a means of discipline, provides a place for supervised visitations, CPR training, give parents skills to cope with the stresses of child rearing, and so much more.
For kids infant through age 5, and moms and/or dads or grandparents, are held at the following locations fall - spring:
In Damariscotta: Mondays - 10 a.m. to noon at Healthy Kids , 15 Belvedere St.
In Boothbay Harbor: Wednesdays - 10 a.m. to noon, Boothbay Region YMCA, Townsend Avenue/Route 27, Boothbay Harbor
In Waldoboro: Fridays - 10 a.m. to noon, United Methodist Church, Friendship Street
Every year, approximately 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner. It is also known that 3 in 4 parents have never talked to their children about domestic violence. In light of these alarming facts, every year during the month of February advocates join efforts to raise awareness about dating violence, highlight promising practices, and encourage communities to get involved. ~ from National Resource Center on Domestic Violence website page
Founded in 1995, the Institute has sponsored statewide conferences, provided train-the-trainer and workplace training workshops, produced public service announcements and are currently providing transitional housing support and outreach services for older victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.
Toll free number: 1-888-819-3666.
Adult Protective Service 24-hour hotline: 1-800-624-8404.
Maine Friends of Animals (MFOA) is a statewide organization that promotes the humane treatment of animals through education, advocacy and legislation.
Since 1997, MFOA has been Maine's leading voice for animal protection, working tirelessly to end animal cruelty in our state.
MFOA is dedicated to improving the lives of all Maine animals — domestic, farm and wildlife.
Some of the ways MFOA works for change:
Focused contact with lawmakers to advance animal friendly legislation. Legislative information and action for members on pending legislation, campaigns and strategies for influence.
Recruiting, endorsing and actively supporting animal-friendly legislators.
Animal advocacy education for schools, fairs, public events, conferences, civic organizations and the media.
Information, video and research center available to groups and individuals interested in animal protection.
Stalking is a crime.
Not only in Maine, but in every state in the country.
What is stalking? In Maine it is defined as: "intentionally or knowingly engages in a course of conduct directed at, or concerning a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to suffer serious inconvenience or emotional distress; to fear bodily injury or fear bodily injury to a relation; to fear death or to fear the death of a close relative; to fear damage or destruction to or tampering with property; or to fear injury or death of an animal owned by or in the possession or control of the specified person."
Being stalked creates fear and anxiety in its victims. According to www.stalkingawarenessmonth.org, one in four women and one in three men will be stalked in their lifetime.
To be stalked is not flattering. The action does not reflect love. It is intrusive and impacts the lives of victims at their home, place of employment and anywhere they may go.
Legislation addressing stalking became law in 1995. Stalking, on first conviction, is a Class D crime. The sentence is a minimum of 60 days, but all but 48 hours may be suspended. An individual convicted of stalking may also be ordered to attend a court approved abuser education program, such as New Hope For Women's "Time For A Change."
If two or more offenses are committed and the individual convicted of stalking, it is a Class C crime. The other offenses could include violating protection orders. The sentence in this case is at least 6 months, but all but 14 days may be suspended.
The Maine Homicide Review Panel (excerpt from current report)
By law effective October 1, 1997, the Maine Legislature charged the Maine Commission on Domestic and Sexual Abuse with the task of establishing a Domestic Abuse Homicide Review Panel to “review the deaths of persons who are killed by family or household members.”
The legislation mandated that the Panel “recommend to state and local agencies methods of improving the systems for protecting persons from domestic and sexual abuse including modifications of laws, rules, policies, and procedures following completion of adjudication.” The Panel was further mandated “to collect and compile data related to domestic and sexual abuse.” 19-A M.R.S. §4013(4). See Appendix A for the complete language of the Panel’s enabling legislation.
The Maine Domestic Abuse Homicide Review Panel meets on a monthly basis to review and discuss domestic abuse homicide cases. The Panel Coordinator works with the prosecutor and/or the lead detective to present to the multidisciplinary Panel an overview of the homicide, information about the relationship of the parties, and any relevant events leading up to the homicide.
Homicide cases are presented to the Panel after sentencing. Homicide-suicide cases are presented once the investigation is complete. The Panel reviews these tragedies in order to identify potential trends about domestic abuse and recommend systemic changes that could prevent future deaths from occurring in Maine.
The panel plays a significant role in the prevention and intervention work that is occurring in Maine by gathering opinions and expertise from a variety of professional disciplines across the state.
For over 30 years, the Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault (MECASA) has represented and served Maine’s sexual violence service providers. MECASA works toward ending sexual violence by providing public policy advocacy, assistance to Maine’s sexual violence service providers, public awareness and prevention activities, and statewide training.
- Initiating and advocating for victim-centered public policy;
- Providing support and assistance to Maine's sexual violence service providers and serving as a liaison between the centers and our statewide and national partners;
- Reducing common myths and misperceptions about sexual violence through building and sustaining public awareness; and
- Providing expert training, statistics, and resources about sexual violence to organizations, groups, and individuals throughout the state. Source: agency's website.
Reach an advocate by calling the statewide 24-hour sexual assault crisis and support line at 1-800-871-7741 (TTY 1-888-458-5599).
Some of the policy priorities for us at National Resource Center on Domestic Violence include:
• Ongoing support for three cornerstone pieces of federal legislation: the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA), Violence Against Women (VAWA), and Victims of Crime Act (VOCA)
• Economic security programs like equal pay, paid family and medical leave, paid sick and safe days, and access to affordable childcare.
• Policies that address the over-incarceration and disproportionate incarceration of people of color, including efforts to interrupt the school-to-prison pipeline.
• Policies that close loopholes that enable abusers to have access to firearms, other measures that address gun violence.
• Safety for immigrant victims of domestic violence, including policies that extend asylum protections to victims, promote pathways to legal status for victims, and provide safety from detention or deportation when victims seek help through the courts, medical facilities, or other service providers.
This DVAM, #1Thing you can do to address domestic and sexual violence is committed to voting. For those of us with the ability to vote, we should also take this month to be sure that our vote is based on a well-informed understanding of the policies that candidates put forward, and the impact of initiatives or other measures that might be on the ballot – and to remember that this kind of policy-level work is central to our role as advocates, too!
As organizations working to end domestic violence and sexual assault, we can also work with survivors and others in our communities to ensure that they are registered to vote and committed to participating in the electoral process. Non-profit 501(c)(3) organizations are permitted to promote voter participation and to engage with candidates for elected office on a nonpartisan basis.
The National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center, Inc. (NIWRC) is a Native-led nonprofit organization dedicated to ending violence against Native women and children. The NIWRC provides national leadership in ending gender-based violence in tribal communities by lifting up the collective voices of grassroots advocates and offering culturally grounded resources, technical assistance and training, and policy development to strengthen tribal sovereignty.
Our staff and board of directors consist of Native women from throughout the United States with extensive experience and commitment to ending violence against Native women and their children. NIWRC's staff bring decades of expertise in building the grassroots movement to increase tribal responses to domestic violence and increase safety for Native women.
This website offers a nationwide listing of therapists and other mental health workers. There is a listing of issues on the left side of the page of providers with categories, listings of specific needs, i.e. depression, sexual abuse, trauma, domestic abuse, etc. Check the ones that apply and a list of providers, with descriptions of their services written by those providers are culled. Check it out.
This page is dedicated to addressing social, legal and cultural norms that negatively impact the lives of men and boys. We support the equal treatment of both sexes under the law.
This page primarily focus of All kinds of violence, sexual abuse, rape and abuse committed by female offenders against men, children and other women to debunk the myth that only men commit violence and sex crimes and to show that crime has no genders.
The American Civil Liberties Union was founded in 1920 and is our nation's guardian of liberty. The ACLU works in the courts, legislatures and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed to all people in this country by the Constitution and laws of the United States.
- An overwhelming majority of the respondents (88%) reported that police "sometimes" or "often" do not believe victims or blamed victims for the violence.
- A similarly large majority (83%) reported that police "sometimes" or "often" do not take allegations of sexual assault and domestic violence seriously.
- Over 80% believed that police relations with marginalized communities influenced their clients'/members' willingness to call the police