Sticks and Stones

Posted:  Wednesday, May 2, 2018 - 6:30pm
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    What's the Buzz" covers what's happening, what might be happening, and what should be happening in the opinion of the author.

    Eleanor Cade Busby is an unpublished award-winning writer, photographer and blogger & simply loves writing about herself in third person.She published this absolutely all true bio.

    Busby grew up all over New England,a preacher's kid who set out to destroy every single stereotype about a "Minister's Daughter."

    She attended Goddard College, The Rhode Island Conservatory of Music and The School of Life, majoring in everything she could stuff into her head. She once had her own office and a red stapler. Her employees learned quickly never to touch it.

    Much of her very long life has been spent on or back-stage at theaters. She penned a couple of plays, directed many more and acted in scores of productions. She's done it all except hanging lighting. You can't make her climb a ladder.

    She won awards locally & nationally for social services and customer care. Most recently she was awarded the PEN/Toni and James C. Goodale Freedom of Expression Courage Award along with 3 million of her closest personal friends for "galvanizing a potent global movement to resist infringements on the rights and dignity of women and many other groups."

    Busby has been a theater, art and dance reviewer and commentator for several publications, including CRACKED magazine.

    Opinionated, obstinate, much-abused, and under-appreciated, she believes that if it isn't funny or relevant, it isn't worth it.

    Eleanor Cade Busby lives in Midcoast Maine with two cats who like to stand on her head at 3 AM demanding a sacrifice, often her sanity.

    Suggestions for topics and comments are always welcome at eleanorcadebusby@hotmail.com

Knowledge is power but gossip is poison. Sadly, many people like to spread damaging information or intimate details about others, whether true or not.   Some people use gossip to hurt people, in order to feel good about themselves, and to feel like they have power over others. The most dangerous part about gossip is that it steals another person’s reputation. A reputation is very fragile. When you gossip, you are helping to destroy something extremely valuable.

 Decide  right now that you don't want any part of it.

1) Make a commitment that you are not going to share unproven information. 

2) Don’t listen to others when they gossip. You simply listening to it adds to its appeal. If someone starts to tell you something gossipy, say, I’m sorry, but I don’t feel comfortable talking about this. Not only will you break the gossip chain but you also will gain the trust of other people as someone who won’t spread rumors. Maybe the person who attempted to share the gossip will think again. Once a friend of mine was stopped at the grocery store  by someone who wanted to share some tidbit. My friend said " I don't want to hear a word, you are  talking about my friend " and walked away.

 3) Don’t judge.  If you hear gossip, you have two choices: allow the gossip to determine what you believe, or let your own personal experience determine what you think. Look at the situation rationally, not based upon hearsay.

4) Pause before you speak. Think: does this really do any good for me to spread this information?  Could I be hurting someone by telling this? 

5) Stay away from people who gossip . They will gossip about you, too. Don’t associate with people who find joy in belittling others. 

 There’s an old saying, stick and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me. That’s not true.

Most importantly of all: remember that bullying can be very deceptive. A mob of people spreading stories may call themselves ' defenders' or ' truth warriors' but what they really are is a bunch of bullies spreading information that has no basis in fact.  Beware of mob mentality.

In this country, you are innocent until proven guilty.

We live in small communities and things can get out of control very  quickly. Please consider the lasting damage  that might  be done by your ' harmless' words  and just don't  do it.

You will never regret erring on the side of kindness.

Let today be the day you begin. Speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.